Engaged couples that have to live apart for long periods of time, find challenges in keeping their relationship alive and vibrant. In a long distance relationship statistics showed the total percentage of engaged couples that have been in a long distance relationship was 75%. It would have been beneficial if the organization that conducted the statistics followed up and reported how many actually got married and how many didn’t.
Long distance relationships are challenging. It takes a high level of commitment and determination to make it succeed. What are some important actions to follow to ensure its success?
1Stay connected by any means possible. Skype is an excellent choice to use its video capability to see each other. There are other programs available like ooVoo and Messenger as well. Use the most convenient and user friendly for both of you. Text messaging is another way to stay connect all day long. When you send short love texts or stickers to your mate it gives her the feeling you’re thinking about her and that she is more important than whatever you’re doing at the moment.
2Make a schedule for visits. If the reason of separation is that one of you is in the military, sometimes the schedule is not very predictable, so be sure to consider the element of surprise into your schedule. If the reason is school, then your visits will depend on the beginning and ending dates of the term. Other reasons could be accommodated the same way into a schedule.
3Send letters or gifts to each other. To receive something tangible from your lover and you know that he or she wrote the letter or chose the gift and wrapped it especially for you, gives a pleasurable feeling of belonging and certainty.
4Don’t let doubt pollute your thoughts. An example of such thoughts: one of my clients whose fiancé is in school at another State kept worrying that her fiancé might befriend other women while he’s away. Those types of thoughts usually ruin relationships, which must be built on trust and honesty.